What do you do to butter up your wife? (Sample size=489, men)
Rank Score 1 Buy her something sweet 100 2 Take the initiative on doing the housework 73.0 3 Give her even just a small bunch of flowers 69.2 4 Verbally give thanks 62.9 5 Apologise frankly 56.6 6 Go out shopping together on the weekend 47.2 7 Keep listening to her until she’s said all she’s going to say 44.7 8 Give her a massage 37.1 9 Say “I love you” with feelings 35.8 10 Praise her with “you’re beautiful” 34.6 11 Propose a holiday 32.7 12 Do “skinship” (ie, give her a cuddle) 32.1 13 Give her a present of some accessories 31.4 14 Take her out for a little more expensive meal than usual 27.0 15 Do some food shopping 20.8 16 Go to the railway station to meet her 19.5 17 Tidy up the house for when she returns 18.2 18 Give her a day where she can go out by herself (girls night out, etc) 15.7 19 Make a day where she needn’t do anything 13.2 20 Promise her she can buy the clothes she wants 11.3
What do you do to butter up your husband? (Sample size=691, women)
Rank Score 1 Cook his favourite food 100 2 Do “skinship” (ie, give him a cuddle) 76.7 3 Verbally give thanks 72.2 4 Apologise frankly 54.3 5 Give her a massage 43.7 6 Praise him with “you’re looking cool” 42.9 7 Give him some pocket money 40.8 8 Keep listening to him until he’s said all he’s going to say 34.7 9 Say “I love you” with feelings 31.4 10 Give him a day where he can go out by herself (boys night out, etc) 29.4 11 Not get angry even after many work booze-ups in a row 29.0 12 Tidy up the house for when he returns 26.9 13 Go to the railway station to meet her 26.9 14 Buy him something sweet 26.1 15 Propose a holiday 13.1 16 Make a day where he needn’t do anything 11.4 17 Go out shopping together on the weekend 9.8 18 Take her out for a little more expensive meal than usual 6.9 19 Promise him he can buy the clothes he wants 6.1 20 Give him even just a small bunch of flowers 2.0
Source: What Japan Thinks
Keep listening to her until she’s said all she’s going to say
haha Isn’t it a natural thing to do?
Give him some pocket money
It sounds like Japanese women are in charge of the finances 😛
Kitsune's Thoughts 
Wow it seems that both sides know how to treat each other well. (: But this is only the theory, eh?
haha Yes, real life can be more complicated 🙂
Cooking favorite food (is not) equal to Buying something sweeet.
Cooking is much more involved 🙂
I let hubby deal with the headache of the finances.
But I do all the cooking to make up for it 🙂
Yes, homecooked meals are very special 🙂
I love when my baby gives me little gifts
and kisses and cuddles! And takes me
out to show me off as his girl. ❤
Sometimes a big tight squezy hug is all for anger as you transver your love energy into your partener